Feel free to disagree with me, but I find competitive environments one of the best places to grow, push yourself and go beyond your usual boundaries. Of course, with that being said, the same environments can end up draining you and putting on continuous added stress, ultimately affecting your mental health and well being.
You often find yourself in these environments in your studies and at work. The education system in general is somewhere that is by nature, competitive. We are convinced that those who get better marks and get more awards are bound to have better opportunities in the future. Today, we know that this isn’t always true. At work, you often find yourself dealing with unrealistic goals, crappy management and employees who seem as if they are out to get you.
Here’s how you deal with it all effectively
You have to start with goal setting. Make a list of a few goals you want to accomplish in the next while, but be realistic. Setting unattainable goals will only drive you down that hill when you look back and realize that you weren’t able to achieve them. You can see all these people climbing above you to get the roles that you want and all that competition may be stressing you out—this is the best way to conquer that.
I know I just finished telling you not to overwhelm yourself with unattainable goals, but challenge yourself a little. Go a little beyond what you would usually do on a day-to-day basis give yourself something new to accomplish—that will keep you going.
School, work or life in general, this concept always applies. To reach whatever goals you are setting for yourself, you have to find your flaws and fix them. Depending on your trade, find the things that you are not very good at and learn them. Perfecting skills takes time, but at least take the time to learn different skills that may relate to your field.
Don’t envy others
There is no way you’d ever be stress free in a place where you envy everyone around you. Seeing people succeed should only push you to work harder and follow in the paths of those you wish to resemble. Instead of wasting your energy being hateful, befriend your co-workers and classmates instead. That will get you much further than being negative towards them.
The most important point of all is to understand that success takes time. Be patient and take deep breaths. Keep your goals in mind and challenge yourself a little every day in order to see results. Sometimes, when it rains it pours. You will have days where you feel as if all your work is wasted and is not getting you anywhere. Remind yourself that things happen at different times and you may not see yourself improve all at once.
Sometimes, some of your greatest accomplishments and biggest lessons are learned after having been in an environment that pushes you to places that are out of your comfort zone. Be there, get comfortable – you will thank yourself later.